Be the change. If you notice a problem, you should take action; it’s not fair to blame others for doing something that you yourself do, too.

In other words, yes, Lily has just as much power as anyone else to disengage. Given that she is also aware that it’s a problem (some people might not know they’re adding to the problem), she does have a bit more control over whether she adds to it or not.

I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again: I don’t know why Lily returns here if most of the interactions she has with others come out negative. It’s just not worth the negative energy to keep coming back here. It’s a bad trade-off.

Now, I’m in no place to lecture her on what she should and shouldn’t do with her time. I just think that a good deal of her distress on this website could probably be resolved by keeping in touch with her friends on a different platform.